Some of my favorite moments are spent with me. I’ll curl up on the sofa couch, grab a book with my dogs sitting by my feet, and nestle in for a few hours. There’s no activity in the house, no noise, just the author’s story unfolding in my mind. During these quiet moments, I appreciate my singleness.
My singleness means I am accountable only for myself, my decisions and my priorities. If I decide to take off for a weekend beach getaway, I don’t have to check in with anyone. I leave when I want to leave, stay where I want to stay, and eat what I want to eat. This is one of the great attributes of singleness; I make up my own rules.
For many years, I felt like a leper for not being settled down. “What’s the problem, why haven’t you met your man?” Then I’d have (and still do) people, random people, strange people say to me, “Gosh honey, you’re so pretty. Why aren’t you married yet?” Awesome observation! It’s like a compliment and insult all rolled into one. After picking my jaw off the ground along with my dignity, I’d say, “Ummmm…” and literally had no clue how to respond. I mean come on; I was asking myself the same question and didn’t know the answer! Today I’ve got the perfect response to this question. I say, “If only you knew how many surgeries I had to go through to look like this!” It’s hysterical to see their response, especially after I tell them it’s not true.
Singleness is a lot of responsibility too. When I’m working long hour days, I would love to call home to have the dogs let out, or request a special meal for dinner, or say, “The trash collector is coming tomorrow; could you roll the can down the drive way?” And home maintenance for me is the pits. I despise that grass grows. Then with rain, it grows taller? Ugghh. Just the thought of that gas can and squeezing that black button twenty times to release oil and then mowing straight lines while quickly side stepping chipmunk holes! Ugghh. Just home maintenance alone is enough reason to find Mr. Right!
Singleness is what it is. For me it’s a time for growth. Singleness is a time to recognize God’s evolving purpose for my life. Singleness is appreciating being still and quiet. Singleness is what you make it, just like everything in life. I am so confident of God’s love and power to provide all things in His time. Embracing singleness at times is tough with all its ups and downs but knowing God’s got my back eases the growing pains.
Jenny Krapf is a recent graduate with a Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration. She is passionate about film-making, international travel, and her two dogs. Favorite word: Freedom